Check Your Filter

How about all this snow! Did you know currently 49 of the 50 states (even Hawaii!) have snow. The widespread cold snap reminded me to clean our furnace filter. The metaphor of this chore lead me to ponder...Is my internal filter effecting my ability to be warm and comfortable?

A couple years years after we bought our first house, we had our furnace serviced. The technician asked me how often we replace or clean out our filter. He was floored when I told her we’d never cleaned out the filter. He gave me a long lecture about how important it is to regularly check and maintain the filter to it stays clean. He educated me about how much harder the furnace has to work when the filter is dirty, and how much more energy it takes to produce warmth when the filter is bogged down with gunk. Not only was this a great lesson in home maintainence, but also a perfect metaphor for life.

We each have an inner filter through which we see and experience the world. The filter creates your perspective on life. It determines your intrepration of other people actions and how you choose to respond. Your filter also creates the expectations you have for what is or is not possible in your life.

Your filter gets dirty when you stay connected to past pain,fear, guilt or ways people have offended you in the past. If you don’t regularly clean out your filter, it becomes clogged with anger, resentment and bitterness. Your filter causes you to assign meaning to situations you encounter. This meaning creates the rules, excuses and reasons you use to rationalize staying stuck hold you back from pursuing what you want most in life. Would it surprise you to learn that you’ve decided what other people’s actions are about. Would you be shocked to learn their behaviors don’t have to mean what believed all along?

More importantly, your filter creates the energy people pick up from you. Have you ever encountered someone who makes you feel better just to be around them? How about someone who just makes you feel drained or creeped out? This is a reflection of their inner filter. What expereince do you want people to have when they’re around you? Is your energy attractive or repellant? If you want to attract more good stuff in your life, clean out your filter.

When your filter as clean as possible, there’s less gunk to which negativity you encounter can get stuck. You’re able to experience irritating or difficult people and situations without being offended or bothered. Instead of getting stuck, their bad energy just passes right through. You can be uneffected by their pessemistic, draining approach or, even rudeness.

Having a clean filter allows you to be proactive rather than reactive; optimistic versus pessimistic; generous over stingy and confident not fearful. As you clear out your filter, your actions will lead people to view you as confident, authentic and uplifting. Elevating your energy level in this way will attract people and opportunities to you that are just what you need to be happy.

What people and experiences would you like to attract? True Friends? Mentors? Pleasant interactions with acquaintances and strangers? Divine Intimate Relationships? Improved co-parenting with your exspouse? Deep, loving parenting/child relationships? Cooperative, supportive friends and family?

To keep your inner filter clean, follow the advice of my furnace repairman:
1. Make a habit of looking at your filter regularly. (He says once a month for the furnace; I say once a day for your inner filter)
2. Clean your filter by letting go of your attachment to other people’s filters. Let it go!
3. When you find yourself getting triggered by something sticking in your filter, notice what the current situation reminds you of. It’s very likely you’re responding to layers of gunk and pain, not just what’s going on right now.
4. Deal with the core of what’s really bothering you and let go of past hurt and pain. Move forward with a clean filter and approach to life.

When you clean out your filter, you’ll find you don’t have to work so hard to function. You’ll be more comfortable, using far less energy. A clean filter makes it so much easier to have warmth in your heart and in your home.