Change How You Think About Change!

Change how you Think about Change

We’ve been conditioned to think that change is painful, difficult or takes a long time. On the contrary - it’s just matter of changing how you think and the changes will fall right into place quickly, smoothly and peacefully. I see this all the time with my clients. They're convinced it's going to be painful or difficult to create change. Once they see the small, simple yet powerful steps that free them of their old ways of being stuck, they see results VERY quickly! Knowing the specific ways to change your actions empowers you because you now have options. Rather than being a victim to way the wind blows, you can take charge of your life without working so hard. Imagine how you'd feel to be free of the guilt and pressure you're under now!
When you change your actions, feelings will follow. Little step by little step you’ll be able to let go of the disease to please, stop being so hard on yourself and find better relationships, more joy and greater abundance.

Change isn’t always comfortable. Often to experience change you have to push through the discomfort that’s kept you stuck up to this point. I know the good stuff that’s waiting for you on the other side of that resistance, so I’m excited to see you break through!

Results can come from very small changes. The first steps of change come with small steps so it’s not too much too soon. Do you push yourself to be perfect? Do you expect yourself to have life all figured out? Are so hard on yourself when things don't go just right? Do you fall into the trap that if you're not perfect, you're all wrong? Take a new approach to change. Look for successes, not failures. Focus on what went right, not wrong. Talk to yourself with kindness, patience and humor. Let change come in small steps that will ripple into the big remodel you have in mind for your life. We want real results that last, not sudden leaps that are merely a flash in the pan.

You may find, however, it’s not as difficult as you think. I learned many things from my experiences as a therapist with at risk youth and struggling families. The biggest lesson I walked away with is this: There is virtually no limit to the boundless strength and resilience of the human spirit. You’ve already survived pain and struggle to get to today. If you can handle that, there’s nothing you can't handle. Results are not only possible, but likely. (And until you believe it, I’ve got your back.)

I can show you the way out because I've been there myself. Many times it literally felt life threatening to do something as simple as set a boundary, deal with conflict, say no or put less emphasis on making other people happy. I learned the connection between my fear of rejection, fear of failure and success, fear of disapproval, fear of conflict, fear of not being liked and so many others to the fact that I'd held on to old ideas and rules that no longer fit. Confronting these fears often made my heart pound, blood pressure soar, knees shaky and hands ice cold. But each time I summoned the courage to take on what felt like King Kong, it got easier.

Here’s the first secret…

Fears look like a brick wall. As you charge (or tip toe) up to it, you brace for the impact of the worst case scenario. However, if you have the courage to break through it, you’ll find the brick wall was an illusion of your own making. It’s actually tissue paper thin. The anticipation of change is much worse than actually doing it. Plus, the freedom and peace you’ll find on the other side of that wall of fear is SO sweet.

Recall the wise words of Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.: "Take the first step in faith...you don't have to see the whole staircase. Just take the first step."

Action Step: Decide today one small thing you can change to point your life in the direction of your dreams. If you need some help or inspiration, all the tools you need can be found at www.learnhowtosayno.com.